How to Get Negativity Out of Your Head

Halloween is here and Sandy is gone! I hope all of you are safe and not too haunted – it’s time to celebrate.

Just as we get dressed up on Halloween, we often wear a mask to play different roles in life. We try to shield, protect and hide behind an image or idea – also called a persona. On the one hand, it gets us through the day but on the other, we end up not listening to our true self.

It’s easy to get distracted by the negative voices in your head that sound like Goblins. They reprimand you and convince you you’re small, limited, and can’t achieve your goals. “You’re not good enough” they whisper over your shoulder. “I’m afraid to fail, so I won’t even try.” “If only you had…, then you would be able to.” “I’m not pretty enough..” They are patterns of thoughts that cause you pain, despite your desire to make positive changes.

While you might convince yourself that your Goblins keep you safe by discouraging you from trying new (and potentially hurtful) experiences, they’re doing much more harm than good.

So what do you do? Would you rather listen to your goblins and prove them right? Or do you want the help & tools you need to let them go for good?

Don’t be spooked.

Eckhart Tolle says:

” …Why does the ego play roles?

Because of one unexamined assumption, one fundamental error, one unconscious thought. That thought is: I am not enough. 

Other unconscious thoughts follow: I need to play a role in order to get what I need to be fully myself; I need to get more so that I can be more.”

Your mind is playing tricks on you. If you’re ready to grow, you must be open and willing to get to know your mind. Shine the light of consciousness on these negative thoughts and beliefs.

Your Goblin’s are not who you really are!

Learn how to make the distinction between what your Goblin’s tell you from the TRUTH!

As your coach, I will help you be your BEST self!

By asking you questions and challenging your own thought patterns, we will build your confidence, improve your relationships and find fulfillment in your work. You will see positive transformation in your life

Once you get these Goblin’s out of the way, it will help you get crystal clear on your life’s goals. And, the more clarity you have, the faster you will move into action.

If you have been thinking about change but haven’t moved into taking action, then the voice of your Goblin’s got the best of you.

If you’re ready to take ACTION in your life, contact me now and Click HERE.  

Don’t trick yourself, treat yourself. 

You are good enough!  

Happy Halloween!

 

Spice Up Your Life With Tumeric

The Sanskrit word Ayurveda literally translates to mean “the knowledge for long life”. “Life” includes everything we experience: our physical state, relationships, social interactions, financial well-being, etc. As a philosophy, Ayurveda follows the principle that every aspect of our lives affects our well-being; health is wholeness, and wholeness is health.

It makes perfect sense! When we care for our bodies properly, we’re reminded to focus on wellness in every aspect of our lives – psychologically, spiritually, and professionally.

But in this high-speed world of ours, it’s easy to let our health fall by the wayside. Microwave dinners, fast food, and overloads of caffeine can clog up our systems and drain us of valuable energy. But I’ve recently discovered a handy little spice that can kickstart your natural detoxification systems, flush out all the gunk, and enhance your body’s natural wellness!

This bright yellow spice, Turmeric, is used in Chinese and Indian systems of medicine for its antioxidants and health-promoting properties.

Turmeric is packed full of curcumins, which are nifty anti-inflammatory agents that support your immune system, metabolism, skin health, digestion, circulation, natural detox systems & can even  lengthen your life.

I absolutely love the stuff. Here are a few of the benefits of Turmeric:

– It is a natural antiseptic and antibacterial agent, and can be used on cuts and burns.

– It has been known to reduce the risk of breast cancer, prostate cancer, and melanoma.

– It is a natural liver detoxifier.

– In Chinese medicine, it has been used to treat depression.

– It’s an effective metabolism booster!

Drink it: I’ve tried Tumeric-Elixir, a vegan turmeric-based formula drink with anti-inflammatory properties. It’s absolutely delicious!

Cook with it: On the World’s Healthiest Foods page for turmeric, you’ll find plenty of scrumptious turmeric-based cooking tips and recipes.

Infusing your meals with turmeric won’t just increase your metabolism and aid your digestion – it opens the door to a higher state of wellness throughout your entire life!

So add a little spice to your life with turmeric!

 

5 Minute Meditation for Unlimited Potential

Meditation is a tool to guide you to unleash your potential. The first half of this meditation allows you to get more deeply relaxed and the second half points you in the direction to tap into your potential. Use this meditation in the morning daily to achieve the best results.

Click Here: Meditation for Unlimited Potential

Fashion: Be a Rockstar

Fall is officially here. Are you ready to change your wardrobe? It’s time to put away that summer gear and let go of clutter to get clear. Just because the sun doesn’t stay out as long, doesn’t mean you still can’t shine. I’m in love with these Rockstar Super Skinny Jeans from Old Navy. I have a few pairs – purple, red, black and gray.

As it says on oldnavy.com, “These denim leggings have just the right amount of stretch to keep you jamming in the style spotlight.” Whenever I wear them, I get compliments and asked “Where did you get them?” So, I decided to let you’all know. You cannot go wrong with these pants and price. Be a rockstar with me.

 

 

 

 

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Oftentimes, people actually aren’t afraid of commitment. We think that we are, but often times it’s something else. So, we want to remove that label of “fear of commitment” and we want to get to, or uncover, what’s underneath that.

Paving the Way for Happiness

In our day-to-day life we can catch ourselves comparing ourselves to others — whether it be in our jobs/career, the dating scene, attractiveness, money and more. In New York (or really anywhere), the environment can sometimes feel so competitive. If we are unaware, we can easily get caught in viewing others as a threat to our own success or even simply having bad “sportsmanship.” 

When you are in a comparing competitive mindset, you are losing to yourself because you are coming from a place of lack. You are thinking that there is not enough abundance in the world for you. You view people as your enemy, you are jealous of others, and you either put yourself on a pedestal or lower yourself because you feel you’re not good enough. You blame others or the outside circumstances and make reasons or excuses for why you’re not happy. Happiness, however, is an internal state of mind.

I have been attending a meditation class and the recent teachings are about living life with a fully engaged heart.  Living life with a fully engaged heart has the power to remove you from this feeling of isolation and loneliness. When you realize you are dependent upon others (not in a co-dependent way, but that we need others to get food, clothes, etc.) and we cherish others, whether it be the person you get your dry cleaning from, someone in your field of work, or the random person on the subway, and we have compassion for all living beings, you have a peaceful mind. When you make everything you do, all about “me” and spend the majority (if not all day!) thinking about your own benefit, this is very unbalanced. Since we live in a world that is full of others, and you need others to survive, and you spend the whole day thinking about ourselves, this is not logical. Buddhisim, has a very logical and practical approach to life to lead us away from suffering and to peace and the bliss of enlightenment. According to Buddha, the world arises from our mind. 

 

“The total amount of happiness

That exists in the world has come from

Wanting to make others happy.

The total amount of suffering

That exists in the world has come from

Wanting to make yourself happy.”

– Based on the eighth chapter of Master Shantideva’s Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life

 

We are not in competition with one another. We are in community. We are not separate from on another. All energy is shared. If you feel isolated and alone, observe your mind. Are you thinking about your needs? “‘I’ don’t have..” “It didn’t turn out the way ‘I’ wanted..” “She is better than ‘me’..” This is when we feel disconnected, unhappy and alone.  

This idea that you are not good enough, mediocre or have to be better than others to succeed, is a mindset that leads to suffering. When you limit yourself, and hold yourself back from reaching your potential — you, therefore, are limited to helping others reach their highest self. 

Can you stop telling yourself “I’m not good enough…” or “I’m better than…” , “Why can’t I…” and start to make an effort to be connected? How can you reframe some of these ideas about other people and the social status’?

This is a great opportunity for you to shift your attitude and ultimately, your perception. Focus on each on of your thoughts. Notice if the thought causes you to feel pain and suffering or peace and happiness. Begin to cultivate thoughts that are more about others and how you can serve them. Can you be more friendly and compassionate to others? How can you serve others? 

You must have a vision of the change you want to see. As a meditation, close your eyes and picture yourself connected to all living beings. What would it look like? What would it feel like? What would you be thinking? What would you be doing? Spend a few minutes meditating on this.  

Write down your intention about your attitude and life that you desire. Get clear about it and write it down.  

One love. 

Keeping Things Into Perspective

“There will be a time, not so far from now, that you will look back on this phase of your life and instead of condemning it or beating up on it… Instead of blaming or guilting, you will feel appreciation for it, because you will understand that a renewed desire for life was born out of this time period that will bring you to physical heights that you could not have achieved without the contrast that gave birth to this desire.”

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Boston, MA on Saturday, October 4th, 1997 # 545

What Does it Take to Be a Champion?

As a former athlete, I understand what makes the biggest difference in performance is your mental game. My senior year in high school, I clearly remember being seeded #2 in the Maryland State Tennis Championship tournament. I knew I had an opportunity to win, but I needed to prepare. To assist my mental preparation, I hired a sports psychologist. She took me through exercises such as visualization, positive affirmations and ways to anchor my focus during a match (I use techniques I use with my clients). With much preparation, I won the Maryland State Tennis Championship! Image

That was a great victory for me, that I will never forget. It wasn’t just the fact that I won but more so, I was so mentally prepared, the tournament was easy for me. I had a game plan and strategy which allowed me to have a strong sense of focus. My attitude was calm and confident. I knew what I wanted and I achieved it!

What allowed me to perform at my highest level, was the support of my coaches. Without their belief in me, knowledge and encouragement, I definitely wouldn’t have been able to accomplish as much as I did in my tennis career.

Watching the Olympics, brings back those memories of the days when I would compete. While I had lots of successful times in my tennis career, I also had times that were incredibly challenging and heartbreaking. As a former nationally ranked tennis player, it taught me so much about myself and life. Great athletes learn how to handle adversity, anything that comes their way and keep their cool. 

One of my favorite parts about the Olympics is watching these incredible athletes interact with their coaches. Olympic athletes spend countless hours working on their conditioning, speed, form and technique. They expose themselves to the world to compete and perform – taking the greatest risk to perform their personal best and be number one in the world.

What does every Olympian have in common? A coach. All professional athletes use coaches to make sure they are as good as they can be.

Coaching isn’t just for sports. The coaching model, helps you eliminate blocks that prevent you from achieving your life and career goals. Individuals and professionals who desire to find their passion, improve relationships, lose weight, stop smoking, reduce stress, overcome anxiety and conquer less than desirable habits and behaviors, can benefit from coaching. Without a coach, you might end up squandering and falling short of your personal best.

1. Have a Coach
Having support and an outside eye is one of the performance and seeking higher levels of performance cannot be done without a coach.

2. Plan for Success
Create measurable goals with timelines that are realistic. Write down your daily, monthly, and yearly goals.

3. Visualize Success
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it! Champions understand the importance of mental imagery and visualization.

4. Never Give Up
When setbacks arise, Champions stay focused on results. Champions have a mindset that gives them the opportunity to continue to move forward.

5. Believe in Yourself
Confidence, optimistic and a positive attitude is a key success factor. You must believe in yourself, if you expect to succeed. Champions know that with proper preparation they will play their best, and thus they can rightfully believe they can come out on top.

“Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people’s criticisms, carry out your plan.”
– Paul J. Meyer