GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
Just as we get dressed up on Halloween, we often wear a mask to play different roles in life. We try to shield, protect and hide behind an image or idea – also called a persona. On the one hand, it gets us through the day but on the other, we end up not listening to our true self.
It’s easy to get distracted by the negative voices in your head that sound like Goblins. They reprimand you and convince you you’re small, limited, and can’t achieve your goals. “You’re not good enough” they whisper over your shoulder. “I’m afraid to fail, so I won’t even try.” “If only you had…, then you would be able to.” “I’m not pretty enough..” They are patterns of thoughts that cause you pain, despite your desire to make positive changes.
While you might convince yourself that your Goblins keep you safe by discouraging you from trying new (and potentially hurtful) experiences, they’re doing much more harm than good.
So what do you do? Would you rather listen to your goblins and prove them right? Or do you want the help & tools you need to let them go for good?
Don’t be spooked.
Eckhart Tolle says:
” …Why does the ego play roles?
Because of one unexamined assumption, one fundamental error, one unconscious thought. That thought is: I am not enough.
Other unconscious thoughts follow: I need to play a role in order to get what I need to be fully myself; I need to get more so that I can be more.”
Your mind is playing tricks on you. If you’re ready to grow, you must be open and willing to get to know your mind. Shine the light of consciousness on these negative thoughts and beliefs.
Your Goblin’s are not who you really are!
Learn how to make the distinction between what your Goblin’s tell you from the TRUTH!
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By asking you questions and challenging your own thought patterns, we will build your confidence, improve your relationships and find fulfillment in your work. You will see positive transformation in your life.
Once you get these Goblin’s out of the way, it will help you get crystal clear on your life’s goals. And, the more clarity you have, the faster you will move into action.
If you have been thinking about change but haven’t moved into taking action, then the voice of your Goblin’s got the best of you.
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Don’t trick yourself, treat yourself.
You are good enough!
It’s Halloween. Put on a costume. Wear a mask.
Pretend to be what you’re really not. Make believe you are who you wish you could be.
But the real question to ponder is, what disguise do you secretly wear in your daily life?
Psychologist, Robin Reznick, Ph.D., says: “We sometimes wear masks as our shield-to protect (and conceal) ourselves. Hiding behind our masks gets us through our day, however deceptively, because we conceal what we truly think, feel and want.”
Masks we wear don’t necessarily represent who we are, they just “mask” who we really are.
Our masks help us play different roles in life so that others will view us in more desirable ways – the responsible worker, the confident adult, the great lover, a trusting friend.
Halloween is the night where it’s acceptable to present yourself as someone else. It’s fun (and okay) to wear a mask.
But on an ordinary day, do people see you when they look at you? Or is your mask perpetually on?
Let’s face it-everyone wears masks. But, cautions Dr. Reznick; “Don’t get too attached to yours. Reveal who you really are.”
BOO! It’s Spooky.
But, don’t be scared. Let others know who you really are. The true you has nothing to fear.
In your everyday life, enjoy being you.
But, on Halloween, enjoy the fun of dressing up and being someone else.
Trick or Treat.
“Your emotions tell you how your energy system is functioning at each moment. They show you at which locations energy is leaving your energy system in fear and doubt and where it is leaving in love and trust. Your job is to identify where energy leaves you in fear and doubt, and change what you need to so that it leaves in love and trust. ” – Gary Zukav
If you practice this for a week, you will become more self-aware and emotionally intelligent. When you change the way energy leaves you, it will change the vibrations you send out. You can read about the Law of Attraction to learn more about how your vibrations effect your results.
“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.”
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
“And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful, that’s what matters to me.”
“I’m an optimist in the sense that I believe humans are noble and honorable, and some of them are really smart. I have a very optimistic view of individuals.”
It’s been 8 years since I moved to New York.
New York is like the whole world in one place, from little Italy, to Chinatown to the Upper East Side, New York has it all.
I remember my excitement when I moved to the city. I wanted to be a part of it.
For a while, it seemed I was in a relationship with New York. You know, one of those rocky relationships – when it was great, it was great and when it wasn’t it, wasn’t.
Sometimes this city got the best of me. It felt like I would get knocked down and beat up. But somehow, I got back up and got the best of it.
As I changed, my relationship with New York changed too.
8 years later I have a successful business, I found the love of my life and I’m getting married in April, 2012. What more could a 30-year woman ask for?
So, to you New York, I want to say thanks – for all you have challenged me to do, taught me, and for the inspiration I have gotten from all my experiences here.
Some of the lesson’s I’ve learned are:
1. When you need help, get it.
2. Never ever give up.
3. If you want it, go after it.
4. It’s okay to cry.
5. If it’s not the right fit, don’t force it.
6. Most of the time, the only thing getting in your way – is you.
7. Focus is power, stay focused.
8. Follow your intuition.
9. Be grateful for what you have.
10. Sometimes no matter how you spin it, things just don’t make sense. Accept it and move on.
11. Friends come and go.
12. Your habits form your future.
13. See the opportunity.
14. Believe in yourself.
15. Don’t dwell in the past. Be present.
16. Say “No” to what you don’t want.
17. No person, place or thing has power over you unless you allow it.
18. Have a learning mindset.
19. Surround yourself with positive people.
20. Be your own best friend.
It’s been a journey and I’ve met some of the most incredible people – that’s what it’s all about.
If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
It’s up to you.
“Suffering is optional. Whenever we experience a stressful feeling- anything from mild discomfort to intense sorrow, rage, or despair-we can be certain that there is a specific thought causing our reaction, whether or not we are conscious of it. The way to end our stress is to investigate the thinking that lies behind it. ” – Byron Katie
When you notice a negative emotion, bring your attention to your thoughts. Ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” Actively asking yourself to examine your thoughts, will allow you to change them. Just because you’re having a thought, does not mean that it is real or true. In fact most of the time our thoughts are telling us lies. The truth is usually underneath the thought and can be found when your mind is free from thought streams (mostly conditioned by the past). When you are able to notice thoughts that don’t make you feel good, you are given the power to change your thoughts and therefore change how you feel. Make the choice to feel good. Life is a temporary experience, enjoy it.