It’s Halloween. Put on a costume. Wear a mask.
Pretend to be what you’re really not. Make believe you are who you wish you could be.
But the real question to ponder is, what disguise do you secretly wear in your daily life?
Psychologist, Robin Reznick, Ph.D., says: “We sometimes wear masks as our shield-to protect (and conceal) ourselves. Hiding behind our masks gets us through our day, however deceptively, because we conceal what we truly think, feel and want.”
Masks we wear don’t necessarily represent who we are, they just “mask” who we really are.
Our masks help us play different roles in life so that others will view us in more desirable ways – the responsible worker, the confident adult, the great lover, a trusting friend.
Halloween is the night where it’s acceptable to present yourself as someone else. It’s fun (and okay) to wear a mask.
But on an ordinary day, do people see you when they look at you? Or is your mask perpetually on?
Let’s face it-everyone wears masks. But, cautions Dr. Reznick; “Don’t get too attached to yours. Reveal who you really are.”
BOO! It’s Spooky.
But, don’t be scared. Let others know who you really are. The true you has nothing to fear.
In your everyday life, enjoy being you.
But, on Halloween, enjoy the fun of dressing up and being someone else.
Trick or Treat.
“Your emotions tell you how your energy system is functioning at each moment. They show you at which locations energy is leaving your energy system in fear and doubt and where it is leaving in love and trust. Your job is to identify where energy leaves you in fear and doubt, and change what you need to so that it leaves in love and trust. ” – Gary Zukav
If you practice this for a week, you will become more self-aware and emotionally intelligent. When you change the way energy leaves you, it will change the vibrations you send out. You can read about the Law of Attraction to learn more about how your vibrations effect your results.
“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.”
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
“And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful, that’s what matters to me.”
“I’m an optimist in the sense that I believe humans are noble and honorable, and some of them are really smart. I have a very optimistic view of individuals.”
It’s been 8 years since I moved to New York.
New York is like the whole world in one place, from little Italy, to Chinatown to the Upper East Side, New York has it all.
I remember my excitement when I moved to the city. I wanted to be a part of it.
For a while, it seemed I was in a relationship with New York. You know, one of those rocky relationships – when it was great, it was great and when it wasn’t it, wasn’t.
Sometimes this city got the best of me. It felt like I would get knocked down and beat up. But somehow, I got back up and got the best of it.
As I changed, my relationship with New York changed too.
8 years later I have a successful business, I found the love of my life and I’m getting married in April, 2012. What more could a 30-year woman ask for?
So, to you New York, I want to say thanks – for all you have challenged me to do, taught me, and for the inspiration I have gotten from all my experiences here.
Some of the lesson’s I’ve learned are:
1. When you need help, get it.
2. Never ever give up.
3. If you want it, go after it.
4. It’s okay to cry.
5. If it’s not the right fit, don’t force it.
6. Most of the time, the only thing getting in your way – is you.
7. Focus is power, stay focused.
8. Follow your intuition.
9. Be grateful for what you have.
10. Sometimes no matter how you spin it, things just don’t make sense. Accept it and move on.
11. Friends come and go.
12. Your habits form your future.
13. See the opportunity.
14. Believe in yourself.
15. Don’t dwell in the past. Be present.
16. Say “No” to what you don’t want.
17. No person, place or thing has power over you unless you allow it.
18. Have a learning mindset.
19. Surround yourself with positive people.
20. Be your own best friend.
It’s been a journey and I’ve met some of the most incredible people – that’s what it’s all about.
If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
It’s up to you.
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” – Morrie Schwartz
“Excellence is not a singular act, but a habit. You are what you repeatedly do.” – Shaquille ONeal
“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” – Jamie Paolinetti
“Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.” – Oscar Wilde
“We’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are.” – Calvin & Hobbes
“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
Happy New Year!
It’s your opportunity for a fresh start.
Whether your top goal is to lose weight and fit into your skinny jeans, get out of debt and financially plan, get over your x-boyfriend and find your soul mate, finish an old project and learn a new skill or discover how to find more balance and clarity in your life – there’s no better time than now.
Making changes is simple…the challenge is staying committed to action when you fall off track.
We all know it’s easy to exercise for day, a week and sometimes even a month, but remaining dedicated, consistent and persistent is the hard part.
Most people fail because they give up when they face their first obstacle.
The key to success is overcoming road blocks, distractions and setbacks.
Answering these 4 questions will create a plan for you to stay committed.
1. What’s your purpose for achieving this goal?
2. When you’re faced with difficulties how will you stick with your goal?
3. What will you tell yourself when you hear that inner nagging voice that says, “I’ll never get what I want?”
4. What does being committed look like to you? Visualize actions you would take.
If you’re ready to feel fantastic and have more confidence in yourself – take on the challenge.
Don’t let anything hold you back.
You can do what you commit to…
“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
– Peter F. Drucker
Most of our thoughts are habitual and negative.
They are stories about the past and the future. Learn to use your mind and focus your attention on what you are doing.
“Your mind is an instrument, a tool. It is there to be used for a specific task, and when the task is completed, you lay it down. 80 to 90 percent of most people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless, but because of its dysfunctional and often negative nature, much of it is also harmful. Observe your mind and you will find this to be true. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy.” – Eckhart Tolle