A single mother struggling to stay afloat with the help of social security checks, J.K. Rowling is a true rags-to-riches story!
By the time I was 26, I had worked as a tennis coach, receptionist, a waitress for about 2 weeks (I dropped the 3rd piled high roast beef sandwiches on the floor just before they were served to 3 women expecting a nice lunch, but ended up feeling sorry for me), internet marketing consultant, online sales, and was doing online marketing for a mobile company.
I had 6 different jobs in the first 4 years of my “adult life.”
It wasn’t until I was sitting in a meeting and my boss at the time called me out on my “mistakes” that something clicked! I felt a jolt in my stomach that said, “this isn’t right.” In that moment it became clear to me that I wasn’t listening to myself. These so-called failures had nothing to with my ability and everything to do with me not doing what I was meant to do.
I knew deep down inside what I really wanted to do, I wanted to be a Life & Career Coach. But I thought “One day in the future when I’m 45, married and have kids, I’ll work from home and start my own business.”
This was the story I was telling myself. I was putting off what I really wanted to do.
That jolt hit me so hard that I knew I couldn’t ignore my truth anymore. It was that moment that I decided to follow my heart and never look back.
I took the steps.
I enrolled into NYU’s Coaching Certification program, quit my job and started working for a coach. You see, when I made that choice, things started to fall into place. Just a year after the program, I started my own coaching practice. I put one foot in front of the other.
I’m going to be honest here, it wasn’t always easy. It definitely took some sweat and tears, but the only way to get to the other side is through it.
Now, 6 years later, from that day I made the choice, I am so happy I did.
I want to share this story with you because if you are undecided about what direction you want to go, it might be because you’re not listening to your true desire.
I believe the answers are within us and in order to live the life we imagined, we must be willing to listen to our inner voice.
As a coach, I help you drown out the noise in your head that is full of fear and doubt “shoulds” “if only” “someday when” and direct you to go confidently in the direction of your desires.
Ask yourself these 3 questions:
If I had all the money in the world but I had to work, what would I do?
What do I really want to do with my life?
If I had no fear what would I do?
Happy Valentines Day!!
On Valentine’s Day, it’s so easy to get caught up in fear-based thinking. If you are single, you can get down on yourself for not being in a relationship and you start thinking that you aren’t good enough. No good! And if you are in a relationship, it’s easy to focus on the things that are wrong in the relationship because you put way too much pressure on your love to give you everything you need. Also no good!
Well, this year, I want you to think about how you can love yourself up. When you love yourself first, you are able to love that much more in your relationship, connect with others on a deeper level, and be more open to attract the love that you desire. The more you love yourself, the more love
Here are our top 3 ways to bring more self-love into your life:
• Treat Yourself To Something Nice. Buy yourself a dozen roses, cook yourself a beautiful meal, get a massage, draw a bath and simmer in some rose-scented bubbles for a few.
• Create a Love Yo’Self List. Make a list of everything you love about yourself. Include it all. You love your butt? Awesome. You love how great a listener you are? Amazing.
• Spend QT (Quality Time) With You. In order to love yourself more, you need to get to know yourself better. Spend some time with just you- journal, meditate, take yourself for a walk, go window shopping. Whatever it is, make a conscious connection with yourself and have fun!
I have seen the miracles that have occurred in my life once I truly started loving myself- my career blossomed, my relationships deepened, and health and happiness became a priority. Because I know the importance of self-love, I am so excited to share with you a webTV series where you will actually be able to see and discover fun ways to show yourself love. My friends Ali Leipzig and Natalie Berthold created The Self-Love Tour at http://www.selflovetour.tv http://www.selflovetour.tv and I know you will just love it because they are showing us how this journey of learning to love yourself can be FUN!
Just as we get dressed up on Halloween, we often wear a mask to play different roles in life. We try to shield, protect and hide behind an image or idea – also called a persona. On the one hand, it gets us through the day but on the other, we end up not listening to our true self.
It’s easy to get distracted by the negative voices in your head that sound like Goblins. They reprimand you and convince you you’re small, limited, and can’t achieve your goals. “You’re not good enough” they whisper over your shoulder. “I’m afraid to fail, so I won’t even try.” “If only you had…, then you would be able to.” “I’m not pretty enough..” They are patterns of thoughts that cause you pain, despite your desire to make positive changes.
While you might convince yourself that your Goblins keep you safe by discouraging you from trying new (and potentially hurtful) experiences, they’re doing much more harm than good.
So what do you do? Would you rather listen to your goblins and prove them right? Or do you want the help & tools you need to let them go for good?
Don’t be spooked.
Eckhart Tolle says:
” …Why does the ego play roles?
Because of one unexamined assumption, one fundamental error, one unconscious thought. That thought is: I am not enough.
Other unconscious thoughts follow: I need to play a role in order to get what I need to be fully myself; I need to get more so that I can be more.”
Your mind is playing tricks on you. If you’re ready to grow, you must be open and willing to get to know your mind. Shine the light of consciousness on these negative thoughts and beliefs.
Your Goblin’s are not who you really are!
Learn how to make the distinction between what your Goblin’s tell you from the TRUTH!
As your coach, I will help you be your BEST self!
By asking you questions and challenging your own thought patterns, we will build your confidence, improve your relationships and find fulfillment in your work. You will see positive transformation in your life.
Once you get these Goblin’s out of the way, it will help you get crystal clear on your life’s goals. And, the more clarity you have, the faster you will move into action.
If you have been thinking about change but haven’t moved into taking action, then the voice of your Goblin’s got the best of you.
If you’re ready to take ACTION in your life, contact me now and Click HERE.
Don’t trick yourself, treat yourself.
You are good enough!
“Lost wealth may be replaced by industry, lost knowledge by study, lost health by temperance or medicine, but lost time is gone forever.”
– Samuel Smiles
Oftentimes, people actually aren’t afraid of commitment. We think that we are, but often times it’s something else. So, we want to remove that label of “fear of commitment” and we want to get to, or uncover, what’s underneath that.
“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.”
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
“And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful, that’s what matters to me.”
“I’m an optimist in the sense that I believe humans are noble and honorable, and some of them are really smart. I have a very optimistic view of individuals.”
“Suffering is optional. Whenever we experience a stressful feeling- anything from mild discomfort to intense sorrow, rage, or despair-we can be certain that there is a specific thought causing our reaction, whether or not we are conscious of it. The way to end our stress is to investigate the thinking that lies behind it. ” – Byron Katie
When you notice a negative emotion, bring your attention to your thoughts. Ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” Actively asking yourself to examine your thoughts, will allow you to change them. Just because you’re having a thought, does not mean that it is real or true. In fact most of the time our thoughts are telling us lies. The truth is usually underneath the thought and can be found when your mind is free from thought streams (mostly conditioned by the past). When you are able to notice thoughts that don’t make you feel good, you are given the power to change your thoughts and therefore change how you feel. Make the choice to feel good. Life is a temporary experience, enjoy it.