Top 3 Ways to Love Yourself This Valentines Day

Happy Valentines Day!!

On Valentine’s Day, it’s so easy to get caught up in fear-based thinking. If you are single, you can get down on yourself for not being in a relationship and you start thinking that you aren’t good enough. No good! And if you are in a relationship, it’s easy to focus on the things that are wrong in the relationship because you put way too much pressure on your love to give you everything you need. Also no good!

Well, this year, I want you to think about how you can love yourself up. When you love yourself first, you are able to love that much more in your relationship, connect with others on a deeper level, and be more open to attract the love that you desire. The more you love yourself, the more love

Here are our top 3 ways to bring more self-love into your life:
• Treat Yourself To Something Nice. Buy yourself a dozen roses, cook yourself a beautiful meal, get a massage, draw a bath and simmer in some rose-scented bubbles for a few.
• Create a Love Yo’Self List. Make a list of everything you love about yourself. Include it all. You love your butt? Awesome. You love how great a listener you are? Amazing.
• Spend QT (Quality Time) With You. In order to love yourself more, you need to get to know yourself better. Spend some time with just you- journal, meditate, take yourself for a walk, go window shopping. Whatever it is, make a conscious connection with yourself and have fun!

I have seen the miracles that have occurred in my life once I truly started loving myself- my career blossomed, my relationships deepened, and health and happiness became a priority. Because I know the importance of self-love, I am so excited to share with you a webTV series where you will actually be able to see and discover fun ways to show yourself love. My friends Ali Leipzig and Natalie Berthold created The Self-Love Tour at http://www.selflovetour.tv http://www.selflovetour.tv and I know you will just love it because they are showing us how this journey of learning to love yourself can be FUN!

 

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Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Oftentimes, people actually aren’t afraid of commitment. We think that we are, but often times it’s something else. So, we want to remove that label of “fear of commitment” and we want to get to, or uncover, what’s underneath that.

How to Change Your Negative Emotions

Conscious Creation

Conscious creation is the act of making conscious effort to create the life you want. It does go deeper than just changing your life, however. Conscious creation actually refers the very act of creating your own reality.

One of the tenets of conscious creation is that we each have a separate reality that other people cannot know or really understand. And that each of us has the ability to create that reality into anything we want it to be.

Every day when we get out of bed, we set into motion the creation of a certain reality, good or bad. And through conscious, also sometimes called deliberate, creation, we can shift that reality in either a better or worse direction.

At the root of this belief system is the idea of channeling. This can be interpreted two ways. Some use it to mean channeling your own deep-seated ideas and desires, while others see it as channeling other spirits or entities that have some sort of knowledge to impart. Many use it to mean both types of channeling.

Also at the heart of this conscious way of living is the belief that we all create our own reality, even though we don’t realize it. So that when something bad happens to you, it was actually your choice to have that thing happen.

If you suffer serious illness, believers will tell you that you have brought that into your life through choice, whether you know it or not. But that by gaining control of your reality, you can change things and bring what you want into your life, whether it is health, prosperity or overall happiness.

Through the act of deliberate creation, you start each day with a goal. Rather than the goals you might wake up to now like getting the kids to school on time or completing a project at work, you look at the bigger picture. Those will still be part of your goals of course, your daily life must continue. But you will choose different goals that will help define your reality.

The first step in creating your own reality is through your beliefs. Let’s say that right now you believe that most people are selfish and only out to get what they can for themselves without regards to other people. Your belief is creating that reality in your life, so most people in your life will be just this way.

If you shift your belief to one that says that most people are good at heart and want to do the right thing, most people in your life will fit that description. If you believe that you will never get out of debt, you probably never will. But if you wake up each day using conscious creation to believe you will get out of debt, you can make it happen.

Your Self-Image is More Powerful than Your Actual Image

You Can Do What You Commit To

Happy New Year!

It’s your opportunity for a fresh start.

Whether your top goal is to lose weight and fit into your skinny jeans, get out of debt and financially plan, get over your x-boyfriend and find your soul mate, finish an old project and learn a new skill or discover how to find more balance and clarity in your life – there’s no better time than now.

Making changes is simple…the challenge is staying committed to action when you fall off track.

We all know it’s easy to exercise for day, a week and sometimes even a month, but remaining dedicated, consistent and persistent is the hard part.

Most people fail because they give up when they face their first obstacle.

The key to success is overcoming road blocks, distractions and setbacks.

Answering these 4 questions will create a plan for you to stay committed.

1. What’s your purpose for achieving this goal?

2. When you’re faced with difficulties how will you stick with your goal?

3. What will you tell yourself when you hear that inner nagging voice that says, “I’ll never get what I want?”

4. What does being committed look like to you? Visualize actions you would take.

If you’re ready to feel fantastic and have more confidence in yourself – take on the challenge.

Don’t let anything hold you back.

You can do what you commit to…

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
– Peter F. Drucker

Your Mind is an Instrument

Most of our thoughts are habitual and negative.

They are stories about the past and the future. Learn to use your mind and focus your attention on what you are doing.

“Your mind is an instrument, a tool. It is there to be used for a specific task, and when the task is completed, you lay it down. 80 to 90 percent of most people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless, but because of its dysfunctional and often negative nature, much of it is also harmful. Observe your mind and you will find this to be true. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy.” – Eckhart Tolle

Tune in…

Change Your Attitude to Gratitude

The holiday season is here and it might make you feel joy, stress or fear.

It could bring up family struggles and romantic relationship issues.You may feel bad about your unmet goals and think about what you want but don’t have now.

Your ego (your mind and awareness) tells you stories about your past and based on your interpretations of your past, you doubt yourself and worry about your future.

“What if I never have….?”

90% of our thinking is negative and we spend way too much energy thinking about what we don’t have.

Shift your thoughts to a positive perspective and be thankful for what you have in the present moment.

When you focus on what you have, you instruct the brain to look for information, resources and opportunities to be thankful now. Then, your mind will see more evidence of that every day, and you’ll find yourself having more to appreciate, satisfaction in relationships, and self growth.

Here’s a quote on gratitude by author, Melody Beattie: “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

You have the power to perceive the way in which you view the world. It’s time to change your attitude to gratitude.

Write down 3 specific things you are grateful for and e-mail it to me.

Give thanks and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Treat Yourself to Spa Deals

Sometimes it feels like our lives are filled with tight deadlines, frustrations and demands.

While we know how awful stress is, we’re constantly racing anyway.

It can be difficult to slow down and take time for ourselves.

But, we may not realize how our mind and body pay the price.

Need a break?

During that moment of down time at work, there’s an easy way to set up an appointment with Lifebooker.com where you’ll find exclusive health and beauty deals in NYC that offer stress-soothers from massages, to detox treatments, facials, haircuts and more.

Pampering yourself will give you energy to meet your personal challenges, feel self-confident, have healthy relationships, and more enjoyment in your life.

If you want to be your best, it’s time to take action and make yourself a priority.

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