GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
Great quotes about the New York State of Mind:
“I believe in New Yorkers. Whether they’ve ever questioned the dream in which they live, I wouldn’t know, because I won’t ever dare ask that question.” – Dylan Thomas
“Give me such shows — give me the streets of Manhattan!” – Walt Whitman
“One belongs to New York instantly, one belongs to it as much in five minutes as in five years.” -Tom Wolfe
“I love New York City. The reason I live in New York City is because it’s the loudest city on the planet Earth. It’s so loud I never have to listen to any of the shit that’s going on in my own head. It’s really loud. They literally have guys come with jackhammers and they drill the streets and just leave cones in front of your apartment; you don’t even know why. Garbage men come; they don’t pick up the garbage, they just bang the cans together.” – Lewis Black
“My advice for aspiring writers is go to New York. And if you can’t go to New York, go to the place that represents New York to you, where the standards for writing are high, there are other people who share your dreams, and where you can talk, talk, talk about your interests. Writing books begins in talking about it, like most human projects, and in being close to those who have already done what you propose to do.” – Walter Kirn
Today, I went to the Kadampa Meditation Center in New York City to see a prominent teacher and buddhist monk give a teaching on the topic of Mindfulness. He explained that mindfulness is being able to insert wisdom into our life moment by moment. He expressed the importance of wisdom teachings and how important it is to remember them throughout our day.
In the first meditation, he guided us and gave the instruction: STOP thinking and bring your mind to focus single-pointedly on the the sensation of cool air during the inhale and experience of warm air on the exhale. I found this breathing meditation to be very relaxing.
After meditation, we are able to listen with a relaxed mind – which helps receive the teachings with understanding and clarity.
One of the main teachings was about reflecting on the kindness of others. To keep in mind at all times that we are here, we have things, we are able to speak, read, etc. all because of others. For without others, we would not have an apartment, clothes to wear, etc. so we can use these daily things to remind us to be kind. This is the very basic teaching on kindness.
He also explained “The 4 Immeasurables.” We can use these to help us train in everyday activities by using the following words (mantra’s) to improve our mindfulness practice.
1. Love – “May everyone be happy”
2. Compassion – “May everyone be free from suffering”
3. Joy – “May you never be separated from your happiness (having authentic lasting happiness)”
4. Equanimity – “May everyone have equanimity (be free from attachment/anger/hatred)”
Then, he invited us to chose 1 of the Immeasurables and meditate on it. I chose Equanimity, which led me to a deep insight. I was looking at areas in my life where I was holding on to anger and attachment. I found a few spots that I was reflecting on about my past and things I “hated.” I realized I did not want to hold on to hate. Hate is a very painful state of mind and does not benefit me or others. Holding onto hate does not make me feel good.
Seeing that I was holding onto it – empowered me to let go of it. Letting go of hate and exchanging those feelings for love – this is the essence of forgiveness and love. Even if the situation did not result in the way I desired, I realize it is in the past and I do not want to carry the same mindset that created the problem into this moment. This choice to identify more with the love in my heart will allow me to extend more kindness to others.
Reflect on your past. Where are you holding on to hate? How can you let go of it?
You have the wisdom and answers within you, waiting to unfold. Stop telling yourself “I don’t know.” http://www.selfinthecity.com
“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.
The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”
Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”
Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”
Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”
In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.”
– Pema Chodron