GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
GROWTH VS. FIXED MINDSET
Great quotes about the New York State of Mind:
“I believe in New Yorkers. Whether they’ve ever questioned the dream in which they live, I wouldn’t know, because I won’t ever dare ask that question.” – Dylan Thomas
“Give me such shows — give me the streets of Manhattan!” – Walt Whitman
“One belongs to New York instantly, one belongs to it as much in five minutes as in five years.” -Tom Wolfe
“I love New York City. The reason I live in New York City is because it’s the loudest city on the planet Earth. It’s so loud I never have to listen to any of the shit that’s going on in my own head. It’s really loud. They literally have guys come with jackhammers and they drill the streets and just leave cones in front of your apartment; you don’t even know why. Garbage men come; they don’t pick up the garbage, they just bang the cans together.” – Lewis Black
“My advice for aspiring writers is go to New York. And if you can’t go to New York, go to the place that represents New York to you, where the standards for writing are high, there are other people who share your dreams, and where you can talk, talk, talk about your interests. Writing books begins in talking about it, like most human projects, and in being close to those who have already done what you propose to do.” – Walter Kirn
“The life you live is lived first in your imagination. Every step you take is imagined before it is actually taken.
The powerful thing is, you can imagine absolutely anything. So remember to use that power wisely.
“There are consequences to whatever you imagine. Make those consequences good ones by filling your imagination with positive, loving and life-affirming visions.
There is no restriction on what you can imagine. So choose to imagine the very best for your life, your world, and all the other people in it.
Your imagination drives your actions in ways you never even realize. The seeds you plant in your imagination will spring to life in the day-to-day reality of your experience.
Just imagine how good and wonderful and fulfilled your life can be. Imagine, and you are well on your way to making it happen.”
– Ralph Marston
“If your mind carries a heavy burden of past, you will experience more of the same. The past perpetuates itself through lack of presence. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future.” – Eckhart Tolle
What are you focused on? When your mind wanders, bring it back to the present.
Today, I went to the Kadampa Meditation Center in New York City to see a prominent teacher and buddhist monk give a teaching on the topic of Mindfulness. He explained that mindfulness is being able to insert wisdom into our life moment by moment. He expressed the importance of wisdom teachings and how important it is to remember them throughout our day.
In the first meditation, he guided us and gave the instruction: STOP thinking and bring your mind to focus single-pointedly on the the sensation of cool air during the inhale and experience of warm air on the exhale. I found this breathing meditation to be very relaxing.
After meditation, we are able to listen with a relaxed mind – which helps receive the teachings with understanding and clarity.
One of the main teachings was about reflecting on the kindness of others. To keep in mind at all times that we are here, we have things, we are able to speak, read, etc. all because of others. For without others, we would not have an apartment, clothes to wear, etc. so we can use these daily things to remind us to be kind. This is the very basic teaching on kindness.
He also explained “The 4 Immeasurables.” We can use these to help us train in everyday activities by using the following words (mantra’s) to improve our mindfulness practice.
1. Love – “May everyone be happy”
2. Compassion – “May everyone be free from suffering”
3. Joy – “May you never be separated from your happiness (having authentic lasting happiness)”
4. Equanimity – “May everyone have equanimity (be free from attachment/anger/hatred)”
Then, he invited us to chose 1 of the Immeasurables and meditate on it. I chose Equanimity, which led me to a deep insight. I was looking at areas in my life where I was holding on to anger and attachment. I found a few spots that I was reflecting on about my past and things I “hated.” I realized I did not want to hold on to hate. Hate is a very painful state of mind and does not benefit me or others. Holding onto hate does not make me feel good.
Seeing that I was holding onto it – empowered me to let go of it. Letting go of hate and exchanging those feelings for love – this is the essence of forgiveness and love. Even if the situation did not result in the way I desired, I realize it is in the past and I do not want to carry the same mindset that created the problem into this moment. This choice to identify more with the love in my heart will allow me to extend more kindness to others.
Reflect on your past. Where are you holding on to hate? How can you let go of it?
You have the wisdom and answers within you, waiting to unfold. Stop telling yourself “I don’t know.” http://www.selfinthecity.com