My Fox 5 Interview: Live the life You Want

Obstacles Appear

 

When you realize that everything is a projection of your mind and you have the power to change the meaning of events and experiences, you are able to bust through things you are running away from.

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Great quotes about the New York State of Mind:

“I believe in New Yorkers. Whether they’ve ever questioned the dream in which they live, I wouldn’t know, because I won’t ever dare ask that question.” – Dylan Thomas

“Give me such shows — give me the streets of Manhattan!” – Walt Whitman

“One belongs to New York instantly, one belongs to it as much in five minutes as in five years.” -Tom Wolfe

“I love New York City. The reason I live in New York City is because it’s the loudest city on the planet Earth. It’s so loud I never have to listen to any of the shit that’s going on in my own head. It’s really loud. They literally have guys come with jackhammers and they drill the streets and just leave cones in front of your apartment; you don’t even know why. Garbage men come; they don’t pick up the garbage, they just bang the cans together.” – Lewis Black

“My advice for aspiring writers is go to New York. And if you can’t go to New York, go to the place that represents New York to you, where the standards for writing are high, there are other people who share your dreams, and where you can talk, talk, talk about your interests. Writing books begins in talking about it, like most human projects, and in being close to those who have already done what you propose to do.” – Walter Kirn

Imagine the Best!

“The life you live is lived first in your imagination. Every step you take is imagined before it is actually taken.

The powerful thing is, you can imagine absolutely anything. So remember to use that power wisely.

“There are consequences to whatever you imagine. Make those consequences good ones by filling your imagination with positive, loving and life-affirming visions.

There is no restriction on what you can imagine. So choose to imagine the very best for your life, your world, and all the other people in it.

Your imagination drives your actions in ways you never even realize. The seeds you plant in your imagination will spring to life in the day-to-day reality of your experience.

Just imagine how good and wonderful and fulfilled your life can be. Imagine, and you are well on your way to making it happen.”

 

– Ralph Marston

The Quality of Your Future

“If your mind carries a heavy burden of past, you will experience more of the same. The past perpetuates itself through lack of presence. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

What are you focused on? When your mind wanders, bring it back to the present. 

Don’t Let Your Past Define You

There Are Many Ways

There Are Many Ways

How to Defeat Fear

“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.

The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”

Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”

Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”

Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”

In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.”

– Pema Chodron 

3 Questions to Change Your Career

By the time I was 26, I had worked as a tennis coach, receptionist, a waitress for about 2 weeks (I dropped the 3rd piled high roast beef sandwiches on the floor just before they were served to 3 women expecting a nice lunch, but ended up feeling sorry for me), internet marketing consultant, online sales, and was doing online marketing for a mobile company.

I had 6 different jobs in the first 4 years of my “adult life.”  

It wasn’t until I was sitting in a meeting and my boss at the time called me out on my “mistakes” that something clicked! I felt a jolt in my stomach that said, “this isn’t right.” In that moment it became clear to me that I wasn’t listening to myself. These so-called failures had nothing to with my ability and everything to do with me not doing what I was meant to do.

I knew deep down inside what I really wanted to do, I wanted to be a Life & Career Coach. But I thought “One day in the future when I’m 45, married and have kids, I’ll work from home and start my own business.”  

This was the story I was telling myself. I was putting off what I really wanted to do

That jolt hit me so hard that I knew I couldn’t ignore my truth anymore. It was that moment that I decided to follow my heart and never look back. 

I took the steps. 

I enrolled into NYU’s Coaching Certification program, quit my job and started working for a coach. You see, when I made that choice, things started to fall into place. Just a year after the program, I started my own coaching practice. I put one foot in front of the other. 

I’m going to be honest here, it wasn’t always easy. It definitely took some sweat and tears, but the only way to get to the other side is through it.

Now, 6 years later, from that day I made the choice, I am so happy I did. 

I want to share this story with you because if you are undecided about what direction you want to go, it might be because you’re not listening to your true desire. 

I believe the answers are within us and in order to live the life we imagined, we must be willing to listen to our inner voice. 

As a coach, I help you drown out the noise in your head that is full of fear and doubt “shoulds” “if only” “someday when” and direct you to go confidently in the direction of your desires. 

Ask yourself these 3 questions:

If I had all the money in the world but I had to work, what would I do?

What do I really want to do with my life? 

If I had no fear what would I do?

Take action.