How to Defeat Fear

“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.

The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”

Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”

Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”

Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”

In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.”

– Pema Chodron 

3 Questions to Change Your Career

By the time I was 26, I had worked as a tennis coach, receptionist, a waitress for about 2 weeks (I dropped the 3rd piled high roast beef sandwiches on the floor just before they were served to 3 women expecting a nice lunch, but ended up feeling sorry for me), internet marketing consultant, online sales, and was doing online marketing for a mobile company.

I had 6 different jobs in the first 4 years of my “adult life.”  

It wasn’t until I was sitting in a meeting and my boss at the time called me out on my “mistakes” that something clicked! I felt a jolt in my stomach that said, “this isn’t right.” In that moment it became clear to me that I wasn’t listening to myself. These so-called failures had nothing to with my ability and everything to do with me not doing what I was meant to do.

I knew deep down inside what I really wanted to do, I wanted to be a Life & Career Coach. But I thought “One day in the future when I’m 45, married and have kids, I’ll work from home and start my own business.”  

This was the story I was telling myself. I was putting off what I really wanted to do

That jolt hit me so hard that I knew I couldn’t ignore my truth anymore. It was that moment that I decided to follow my heart and never look back. 

I took the steps. 

I enrolled into NYU’s Coaching Certification program, quit my job and started working for a coach. You see, when I made that choice, things started to fall into place. Just a year after the program, I started my own coaching practice. I put one foot in front of the other. 

I’m going to be honest here, it wasn’t always easy. It definitely took some sweat and tears, but the only way to get to the other side is through it.

Now, 6 years later, from that day I made the choice, I am so happy I did. 

I want to share this story with you because if you are undecided about what direction you want to go, it might be because you’re not listening to your true desire. 

I believe the answers are within us and in order to live the life we imagined, we must be willing to listen to our inner voice. 

As a coach, I help you drown out the noise in your head that is full of fear and doubt “shoulds” “if only” “someday when” and direct you to go confidently in the direction of your desires. 

Ask yourself these 3 questions:

If I had all the money in the world but I had to work, what would I do?

What do I really want to do with my life? 

If I had no fear what would I do?

Take action.

Top 3 Ways to Love Yourself This Valentines Day

Happy Valentines Day!!

On Valentine’s Day, it’s so easy to get caught up in fear-based thinking. If you are single, you can get down on yourself for not being in a relationship and you start thinking that you aren’t good enough. No good! And if you are in a relationship, it’s easy to focus on the things that are wrong in the relationship because you put way too much pressure on your love to give you everything you need. Also no good!

Well, this year, I want you to think about how you can love yourself up. When you love yourself first, you are able to love that much more in your relationship, connect with others on a deeper level, and be more open to attract the love that you desire. The more you love yourself, the more love

Here are our top 3 ways to bring more self-love into your life:
• Treat Yourself To Something Nice. Buy yourself a dozen roses, cook yourself a beautiful meal, get a massage, draw a bath and simmer in some rose-scented bubbles for a few.
• Create a Love Yo’Self List. Make a list of everything you love about yourself. Include it all. You love your butt? Awesome. You love how great a listener you are? Amazing.
• Spend QT (Quality Time) With You. In order to love yourself more, you need to get to know yourself better. Spend some time with just you- journal, meditate, take yourself for a walk, go window shopping. Whatever it is, make a conscious connection with yourself and have fun!

I have seen the miracles that have occurred in my life once I truly started loving myself- my career blossomed, my relationships deepened, and health and happiness became a priority. Because I know the importance of self-love, I am so excited to share with you a webTV series where you will actually be able to see and discover fun ways to show yourself love. My friends Ali Leipzig and Natalie Berthold created The Self-Love Tour at http://www.selflovetour.tv http://www.selflovetour.tv and I know you will just love it because they are showing us how this journey of learning to love yourself can be FUN!

 

self love tour

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Oftentimes, people actually aren’t afraid of commitment. We think that we are, but often times it’s something else. So, we want to remove that label of “fear of commitment” and we want to get to, or uncover, what’s underneath that.

How to Change Your Negative Emotions

Pay Attention to Your Energy

“Your emotions tell you how your energy system is functioning at each moment. They show you at which locations energy is leaving your energy system in fear and doubt and where it is leaving in love and trust. Your job is to identify where energy leaves you in fear and doubt, and change what you need to so that it leaves in love and trust. ” – Gary Zukav

If you practice this for a week, you will become more self-aware and emotionally intelligent. When you change the way energy leaves you, it will change the vibrations you send out. You can read about the Law of Attraction to learn more about how your vibrations effect your results.