Oftentimes, people actually aren’t afraid of commitment. We think that we are, but often times it’s something else. So, we want to remove that label of “fear of commitment” and we want to get to, or uncover, what’s underneath that.
It’s been 8 years since I moved to New York.
New York is like the whole world in one place, from little Italy, to Chinatown to the Upper East Side, New York has it all.
I remember my excitement when I moved to the city. I wanted to be a part of it.
For a while, it seemed I was in a relationship with New York. You know, one of those rocky relationships – when it was great, it was great and when it wasn’t it, wasn’t.
Sometimes this city got the best of me. It felt like I would get knocked down and beat up. But somehow, I got back up and got the best of it.
As I changed, my relationship with New York changed too.
8 years later I have a successful business, I found the love of my life and I’m getting married in April, 2012. What more could a 30-year woman ask for?
So, to you New York, I want to say thanks – for all you have challenged me to do, taught me, and for the inspiration I have gotten from all my experiences here.
Some of the lesson’s I’ve learned are:
1. When you need help, get it.
2. Never ever give up.
3. If you want it, go after it.
4. It’s okay to cry.
5. If it’s not the right fit, don’t force it.
6. Most of the time, the only thing getting in your way – is you.
7. Focus is power, stay focused.
8. Follow your intuition.
9. Be grateful for what you have.
10. Sometimes no matter how you spin it, things just don’t make sense. Accept it and move on.
11. Friends come and go.
12. Your habits form your future.
13. See the opportunity.
14. Believe in yourself.
15. Don’t dwell in the past. Be present.
16. Say “No” to what you don’t want.
17. No person, place or thing has power over you unless you allow it.
18. Have a learning mindset.
19. Surround yourself with positive people.
20. Be your own best friend.
It’s been a journey and I’ve met some of the most incredible people – that’s what it’s all about.
If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
It’s up to you.
Conscious creation is the act of making conscious effort to create the life you want. It does go deeper than just changing your life, however. Conscious creation actually refers the very act of creating your own reality.
One of the tenets of conscious creation is that we each have a separate reality that other people cannot know or really understand. And that each of us has the ability to create that reality into anything we want it to be.
Every day when we get out of bed, we set into motion the creation of a certain reality, good or bad. And through conscious, also sometimes called deliberate, creation, we can shift that reality in either a better or worse direction.
At the root of this belief system is the idea of channeling. This can be interpreted two ways. Some use it to mean channeling your own deep-seated ideas and desires, while others see it as channeling other spirits or entities that have some sort of knowledge to impart. Many use it to mean both types of channeling.
Also at the heart of this conscious way of living is the belief that we all create our own reality, even though we don’t realize it. So that when something bad happens to you, it was actually your choice to have that thing happen.
If you suffer serious illness, believers will tell you that you have brought that into your life through choice, whether you know it or not. But that by gaining control of your reality, you can change things and bring what you want into your life, whether it is health, prosperity or overall happiness.
Through the act of deliberate creation, you start each day with a goal. Rather than the goals you might wake up to now like getting the kids to school on time or completing a project at work, you look at the bigger picture. Those will still be part of your goals of course, your daily life must continue. But you will choose different goals that will help define your reality.
The first step in creating your own reality is through your beliefs. Let’s say that right now you believe that most people are selfish and only out to get what they can for themselves without regards to other people. Your belief is creating that reality in your life, so most people in your life will be just this way.
If you shift your belief to one that says that most people are good at heart and want to do the right thing, most people in your life will fit that description. If you believe that you will never get out of debt, you probably never will. But if you wake up each day using conscious creation to believe you will get out of debt, you can make it happen.
The holiday season is here and it might make you feel joy, stress or fear.
It could bring up family struggles and romantic relationship issues.You may feel bad about your unmet goals and think about what you want but don’t have now.
“What if I never have….?”
90% of our thinking is negative and we spend way too much energy thinking about what we don’t have.
Shift your thoughts to a positive perspective and be thankful for what you have in the present moment.
When you focus on what you have, you instruct the brain to look for information, resources and opportunities to be thankful now. Then, your mind will see more evidence of that every day, and you’ll find yourself having more to appreciate, satisfaction in relationships, and self growth.
Here’s a quote on gratitude by author, Melody Beattie: “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
You have the power to perceive the way in which you view the world. It’s time to change your attitude to gratitude.
Write down 3 specific things you are grateful for and e-mail it to me.
Give thanks and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
While we know how awful stress is, we’re constantly racing anyway.
It can be difficult to slow down and take time for ourselves.
But, we may not realize how our mind and body pay the price.
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Trees prepare for winter as their leaves change colors and eventually fall to the ground.
Nature responds naturally to the changing seasons. Let today, the first day of fall, inspire you towards personal growth. It’s time to let go of what no longer serves you and take on new challenges and responsibilities.
Despite your desire to make positive changes, you may feel stuck in bad habits and resist making a change. So, stop resisting it and start taking action.
And, if you’re having trouble changing on your own, having a life coach will help you get where you want to be more quickly and easily.
As a life coach, I’ll cheer you on, give you feedback, reaffirm your commitment, and motivate you to create new habits. You’ll discover healthy ways to manage your life.
I’ll track your performance to enable you to accomplish your goals. Don’t wait any longer to start a new career, boost your self-confidence, have a body you love or improve your relationships.
Just as trees know how to prepare for winter, personal growth starts with you knowing you’re ready and willing to take a step forward to change your life.
Today starts a new season-a reason to let bad habits fall away.
Turn over a new leaf.
However, you know if you do there might be negative consequences.
If you want to release pent up stress, there’s no better way to fight it off than in a cardio boxing fitness class.
Master Trainer, Founder & Creator of Speedball Fitness, Steve Feinberg, co-developed Hip Box with boxing expert/fitness enthusiast Boyd Melson.
Hip Box is a boxing aerobics class set to a hip hop soundtrack that integrates the fundamental techniques and skills of boxing.
You’ll learn innovative variations of the sparring jabs, power punches, defense moves, and footwork patterns that will help you maximize flexibility, core strength, increase your mental focus and burn off up to 200- 500 calories.
Join Steve and Boyd on Friday, August 7th, in a Free Hip Box class at 5pm and with Pheonix on Saturday, August 8th at 12pm in Times Square New York at Radio Shack’s Netogether event (or watch it streamed live at http://www.radioshack.com/theshack).
Beginner and advanced boxers are welcome to attend.
After Hip Box class, you’ll hit the weekend feeling strong and confident.
He was the king of pop.
He had it all – talent, wealth and fame.
On the news this morning someone said, “His greatness was perfection.”
I want to take a moment to acknowledge Michael Jackson. He was an amazing singer, dancer and performer.
He had it all – talent, wealth and fame.
Yet, he still struggled.
One of my favorite songs by him is, “Man in the Mirror.”
The lyrics say, “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.”
Happiness, prosperity and success is not found in what you have.
It’s in You.
As a tribute to Michael, search inside yourself.
What can you do today to facilitate a positive change in yourself?
You can make the world a better place…
We love you Michael!