My Fox 5 Interview: Live the life You Want

Obstacles Appear

 

When you realize that everything is a projection of your mind and you have the power to change the meaning of events and experiences, you are able to bust through things you are running away from.

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Imagine the Best!

“The life you live is lived first in your imagination. Every step you take is imagined before it is actually taken.

The powerful thing is, you can imagine absolutely anything. So remember to use that power wisely.

“There are consequences to whatever you imagine. Make those consequences good ones by filling your imagination with positive, loving and life-affirming visions.

There is no restriction on what you can imagine. So choose to imagine the very best for your life, your world, and all the other people in it.

Your imagination drives your actions in ways you never even realize. The seeds you plant in your imagination will spring to life in the day-to-day reality of your experience.

Just imagine how good and wonderful and fulfilled your life can be. Imagine, and you are well on your way to making it happen.”

 

– Ralph Marston

The Quality of Your Future

“If your mind carries a heavy burden of past, you will experience more of the same. The past perpetuates itself through lack of presence. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future.” – Eckhart Tolle

 

What are you focused on? When your mind wanders, bring it back to the present. 

Don’t Let Your Past Define You

There Are Many Ways

There Are Many Ways

STOP Holding On

Today, I went to the Kadampa Meditation Center in New York City to see a prominent teacher and buddhist monk give a teaching on the topic of Mindfulness. He explained that mindfulness is being able to insert wisdom into our life moment by moment. He expressed the importance of wisdom teachings and how important it is to remember them throughout our day.

In the first meditation, he guided us and gave the instruction: STOP thinking and bring your mind to focus single-pointedly on the the sensation of cool air during the inhale and experience of warm air on the exhale. I found this breathing meditation to be very relaxing.

After meditation, we are able to listen with a relaxed mind – which helps receive the teachings with understanding and clarity.

One of the main teachings was about reflecting on the kindness of others. To keep in mind at all times that we are here, we have things, we are able to speak, read, etc. all because of others. For without others, we would not have an apartment, clothes to wear, etc. so we can use these daily things to remind us to be kind. This is the very basic teaching on kindness.

He also explained “The 4 Immeasurables.” We can use these to help us train in everyday activities by using the following words (mantra’s) to improve our mindfulness practice.

1. Love – “May everyone be happy”

2. Compassion – “May everyone be free from suffering”

3. Joy – “May you never be separated from your happiness (having authentic lasting happiness)”

4. Equanimity – “May everyone have equanimity (be free from attachment/anger/hatred)”

Then, he invited us to chose 1 of the Immeasurables and meditate on it. I chose Equanimity, which led me to a deep insight. I was looking at areas in my life where I was holding on to anger and attachment. I found a few spots that I was reflecting on about my past and things I “hated.” I realized I did not want to hold on to hate. Hate is a very painful state of mind and does not benefit me or others. Holding onto hate does not make me feel good.

Seeing that I was holding onto it – empowered me to let go of it. Letting go of hate and exchanging those feelings for love – this is the essence of forgiveness and love. Even if the situation did not result in the way I desired, I realize it is in the past and I do not want to carry the same mindset that created the problem into this moment. This choice to identify more with the love in my heart will allow me to extend more kindness to others.

Reflect on your past. Where are you holding on to hate? How can you let go of it?

How to Build Confidence

Confidence is something that you can practice by operating outside of your comfort zone—by doing that thing you don’t typically do, or being open to taking chances and trying new things. When old fear arises, it’s important that you are able to be aware, recognize those thoughts, and let them go. This will only allow you to take new actions more in alignment with your potential.

3 Questions to Change Your Career

By the time I was 26, I had worked as a tennis coach, receptionist, a waitress for about 2 weeks (I dropped the 3rd piled high roast beef sandwiches on the floor just before they were served to 3 women expecting a nice lunch, but ended up feeling sorry for me), internet marketing consultant, online sales, and was doing online marketing for a mobile company.

I had 6 different jobs in the first 4 years of my “adult life.”  

It wasn’t until I was sitting in a meeting and my boss at the time called me out on my “mistakes” that something clicked! I felt a jolt in my stomach that said, “this isn’t right.” In that moment it became clear to me that I wasn’t listening to myself. These so-called failures had nothing to with my ability and everything to do with me not doing what I was meant to do.

I knew deep down inside what I really wanted to do, I wanted to be a Life & Career Coach. But I thought “One day in the future when I’m 45, married and have kids, I’ll work from home and start my own business.”  

This was the story I was telling myself. I was putting off what I really wanted to do

That jolt hit me so hard that I knew I couldn’t ignore my truth anymore. It was that moment that I decided to follow my heart and never look back. 

I took the steps. 

I enrolled into NYU’s Coaching Certification program, quit my job and started working for a coach. You see, when I made that choice, things started to fall into place. Just a year after the program, I started my own coaching practice. I put one foot in front of the other. 

I’m going to be honest here, it wasn’t always easy. It definitely took some sweat and tears, but the only way to get to the other side is through it.

Now, 6 years later, from that day I made the choice, I am so happy I did. 

I want to share this story with you because if you are undecided about what direction you want to go, it might be because you’re not listening to your true desire. 

I believe the answers are within us and in order to live the life we imagined, we must be willing to listen to our inner voice. 

As a coach, I help you drown out the noise in your head that is full of fear and doubt “shoulds” “if only” “someday when” and direct you to go confidently in the direction of your desires. 

Ask yourself these 3 questions:

If I had all the money in the world but I had to work, what would I do?

What do I really want to do with my life? 

If I had no fear what would I do?

Take action.