The holiday season is here and it might make you feel joy, stress or fear.
It could bring up family struggles and romantic relationship issues.You may feel bad about your unmet goals and think about what you want but don’t have now.
“What if I never have….?”
90% of our thinking is negative and we spend way too much energy thinking about what we don’t have.
Shift your thoughts to a positive perspective and be thankful for what you have in the present moment.
When you focus on what you have, you instruct the brain to look for information, resources and opportunities to be thankful now. Then, your mind will see more evidence of that every day, and you’ll find yourself having more to appreciate, satisfaction in relationships, and self growth.
Here’s a quote on gratitude by author, Melody Beattie: “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
You have the power to perceive the way in which you view the world. It’s time to change your attitude to gratitude.
Write down 3 specific things you are grateful for and e-mail it to me.
Give thanks and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
While we know how awful stress is, we’re constantly racing anyway.
It can be difficult to slow down and take time for ourselves.
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Trees prepare for winter as their leaves change colors and eventually fall to the ground.
Nature responds naturally to the changing seasons. Let today, the first day of fall, inspire you towards personal growth. It’s time to let go of what no longer serves you and take on new challenges and responsibilities.
Despite your desire to make positive changes, you may feel stuck in bad habits and resist making a change. So, stop resisting it and start taking action.
And, if you’re having trouble changing on your own, having a life coach will help you get where you want to be more quickly and easily.
As a life coach, I’ll cheer you on, give you feedback, reaffirm your commitment, and motivate you to create new habits. You’ll discover healthy ways to manage your life.
I’ll track your performance to enable you to accomplish your goals. Don’t wait any longer to start a new career, boost your self-confidence, have a body you love or improve your relationships.
Just as trees know how to prepare for winter, personal growth starts with you knowing you’re ready and willing to take a step forward to change your life.
Today starts a new season-a reason to let bad habits fall away.
Turn over a new leaf.
However, you know if you do there might be negative consequences.
If you want to release pent up stress, there’s no better way to fight it off than in a cardio boxing fitness class.
Master Trainer, Founder & Creator of Speedball Fitness, Steve Feinberg, co-developed Hip Box with boxing expert/fitness enthusiast Boyd Melson.
Hip Box is a boxing aerobics class set to a hip hop soundtrack that integrates the fundamental techniques and skills of boxing.
You’ll learn innovative variations of the sparring jabs, power punches, defense moves, and footwork patterns that will help you maximize flexibility, core strength, increase your mental focus and burn off up to 200- 500 calories.
Join Steve and Boyd on Friday, August 7th, in a Free Hip Box class at 5pm and with Pheonix on Saturday, August 8th at 12pm in Times Square New York at Radio Shack’s Netogether event (or watch it streamed live at http://www.radioshack.com/theshack).
Beginner and advanced boxers are welcome to attend.
After Hip Box class, you’ll hit the weekend feeling strong and confident.
He was the king of pop.
He had it all – talent, wealth and fame.
On the news this morning someone said, “His greatness was perfection.”
I want to take a moment to acknowledge Michael Jackson. He was an amazing singer, dancer and performer.
He had it all – talent, wealth and fame.
Yet, he still struggled.
One of my favorite songs by him is, “Man in the Mirror.”
The lyrics say, “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.”
Happiness, prosperity and success is not found in what you have.
It’s in You.
As a tribute to Michael, search inside yourself.
What can you do today to facilitate a positive change in yourself?
You can make the world a better place…
We love you Michael!
“Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions that you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
Almost everyone carries in their field an accumulation of old, emotional pain. This sensation is what Eckhart Tolle describes as the “pain-body”; the voice in your head that tells sad, anxious, or angry stories about yourself and your life, about other people, the past, future, or even imaginary events. In addition to the movement of thought, there is another dimension to the ego: emotion. Emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind- the body’s response to a thought. The body believes in what the mind is thinking, and it cannot tell the difference between the body itself and a thought. Your story of the past consists not only a mental recollection, but also emotional memory – and you’re forced to reenact the past again and again.
“The voice in the head tells a story that the body believes in, reacts to and continuously disrupts the body’s natural state of well-being.”
Dysfunctional thought patterns that make up the ego’s negative thoughts feed the “pain-body.” Everything negative we say about ourselves to ourselves (self-talk) and to others is programing us for failure, and creating self-fulfilling prophecies. The brain reacts more strongly to stimuli that it deems negative. There is a greater surge in electrical activity.
Worry is repetitive negative thought patterns that pretend to be important and necessary. Your mind commands “give me your attention, this is important.” However, you’ll never worry your way out of a problem.
For example: the thought,”I haven’t been successful in relationships and I never will be.”
This one negative thought can take possession of your entire mind. It’s the momentum of the mind and the structure of the “pain-body.” These types of thoughts are food for the “pain-body.”
You can go beyond the ego by taking responsibility for your inner state now. Even if blame seems more than justified, as long as you blame others, you will continue to feed the “pain-body” and will remain trapped in your ego. Instead of blaming darkness, you bring in the light. With forgiveness, your victim identity dissolves, and your true power emerges-the power of presence. You can step out of the stream of thinking and take your attention to the present, and immediately the past no longer has that power over you.
“Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now; and if the past cannot prevent you from being present now, what power does it have?” (p.141)
Make sure you feed your mind good food. A positive thought has a totally different feeling-tone than a negative one. The present moment is limitless and has infinite potential.
“Constant alertness is required to not let the ego take it over. The challenges that come into your lives – either the challenge drags you into old conditioned ego reactions or wakes you up more.”
“Everyday that you do – you use small steps. Not look to some future moment that promises some greater fulfillment – that is a delusion. The main focus must be in the doing.”
As a young individual, you can easily think about the future – a career, loving relationship and whatever else. It is easy to lose sight of the NOW.
Tolle says “To master any endeavor – you must be total in what you do.”